Mothers

I know that most young women cannot wait to become mothers but I can honestly say that I am not looking forward to it. Especially with the kinds of mothers that I get to see nowdays. I woke up this morning repeatedly to the sound of boys crying while their mother yelled at the top of her voice and got ignored. That would not have been a problem if she had simply gotten tired of being ignored and gotten up to do something about it but instead she was still sitting in the same place when I finally got up to take care of the problems. Now she has finally gotten up to do something and rather than take care of problems or punish the boys and clean up the messes she made she quite literally comes into the living room and tells her seven yr. old that she "isn't doing it" I haven't said that to another child since I was a child.
I can hear her in there right now yelling at the younger two to clean the play room when they are both still in there playing and she admits that she has no plans of letting them do anything else this morning. Comparing that to the way I was raised I just do not see the point of it. Sure we had to clean our rooms but we were never threatened with never being allowed to play agian and we certainly weren't told that when we were two and three yrs. old.
Other younger mothers that I have seen act similairly they expect the kids to take care of themselves or they decide that they want the children to be perfect. I have heard them complain because the kids are not potty trained by the time they are two, heard them whine cause their kids cannot get their own breakfast for them each morning. I've even watched as they whined and complained right in front of the kids about the things that they believe are wrong with their children. I sat and watched as one of my friends with three children sat and discussed how the oldest girl's walk was "off" when the only thing that was wrong with her walk was that she was tripping over my size 10 sneakers.
Based upon all of these things there is nothing that surprises me when I tell people that I have no interest in being a mom yet much less a stay at home mom which seems to be the aspirations of all the girls I went to school with and all the other young women I meet. Then agian it doesn't really surprise me that I have such notably different aspirations than everyone I grew up with simply because when other older sisters were talking to their younger sisters about makeup and the do's and dont's of dating I was telling my younger sisters about birth control and the old wive's tales they needed to avoid when they decided to have sex.
I do want kids that much is for certain but I want them after I have finished college and probably after I have already moved away from this area. It is more likely that I will be adopting, because I do not want to adopt not give birth to kids, after I have hit my mid thirties rather than having kids when I'm still young which is what most people do. I don't want to have kids while I'm still young and want to enjoy myself. I want to have one or two kids but I also do not want to have them to late when I have hit menopause and gone nuts which in my case would be aroung the time I am in my early to mid forties cause that is how old my mother is now and we think that she has finally hit menopause now.